On Blind dates II

So at around 9pm he gets me home, and by now is exclaiming over what a good woman I am and how come I am not married yet, etc. I told him I saw myself settling down in maybe two years and he screeched 'WHAT??!?' - ati that is too long for him! Mbu we shall not enjoy our children’s youth (Imagine...) Anyway, all in all he keeps making reference to us married, walking down the aisle, spending a Saturday at home, etc., and finally caps it by saying he loves me!! Now really!! I asked him how he could say that on the day he met me (granted we spent 6 straight hours together but still!!) and he said that for men these things are instant!!

In short, the week I was away he called me everyday, ostentatiously to ask after me but really to tell me how he was - or so I noticed... I mean in one conversation he told me all about his malaria attack and feeling weak and having to endure needles etc., and then ended by saying ‘ok, bye, I was just checking on you’ - Am I being too picky?

And then there is the possessiveness – he says he would like us to get an apartment – he stays in hotels when he is town – that each of us would have our own key and that there would be no strings and that he would even pay the rent and give me money to furnish it (HA - no strings??)... Ati this is coz he doesn’t want to have to come for me at my parents where he can’t see me freely.. Another time I didn’t pick up his call because I was in a market and couldn’t talk and he immediately rang my cousin to ask why I didn’t pick his ‘calls’ and that she should send me airtime and ask me to call and on and on..

And then the day I got back (yesterday), after getting up so early and having to change planes etc., I felt really tired, but he insisted on seeing me and said he couldn’t sleep without seeing me – doesn’t this hint at a certain selfishness, I mean I told him I was really tired! And ofcourse he is too physical, hugging me a hundred times to say goodbye and he even tried to kiss me on the first date so I'm constantly having to tell him to step back - ok, I have thoroughly decampaigned this guy but banange - this is all true...

Anyway, I know the Surrendered Single says to go on at least three dates but I doubt I will last that long – the guy is just putting me under too much pressure – yesterday I had to remind him he only met me a week ago and that he should know that he is still only a possible candidate for my affections, meaning I was free to date anyone I pleased – this took him aback for a minute but he said of course I was entitled to my freedom and that he would respect that (as if!)

As I told my sister this morning, the man has officially become a stalker. I don’t know what to do – I am trying to stay surrendered and give the guy a chance but eh?

Speaking of being Surrendered - I saw a nice looking guy in the Dar airport yesterday but I thought to myself that it was too much to hope for that he would be in the seat next to me on the plane but lo and behold, there he was, in the seat next to me!! We talked for a while and he was quite interesting but since I may not control a man's pursuit, when we got to Nairobi and changed planes and seats, I decided to just keep giving him the ocassional smile but allow him to come over and say his piece if he felt like - which he didn't so - I can only imagine he thought two days in Kla and back to TZ didn't present enough prospects! Ah well..

Hold on: WAIT!!! Now that I think about it, the surrendered single says to ask guys to ask you out!! TSK!!! I remembered something about giving guys one's number but I sort of remembered that he had to ask for it - but NO!! Eeehh... Kale! Anyway, ok, I will learn a little at a time!! And such a nice Dutchman too!! (Or maybe me and Dutchmen are not destined to be..)